2023/7/25 5:30
me: When some people say "Leave me alone.", they mean "Don't leave me." To be honest, I hate them. Why are they not to be honest?
AI: I understand your frustration. It can be confusing and annoying when people say the opposite of what they mean. There are many possible reasons why people do this, such as:
- They are afraid of being rejected or judged for their true feelings¹.
- They are trying to manipulate or test the other person's reaction².
- They are being sarcastic or ironic to make a point or a joke³.
- They are following a social norm or expectation that discourages direct expression⁴.
Whatever the reason, it's important to remember that communication is a two-way street. Sometimes, we need to look beyond the words and pay attention to the tone, body language, and context of the speaker. Other times, we need to ask for clarification or feedback to make sure we understand each other correctly.
If you feel that someone is being dishonest or misleading with you, you have the right to express your feelings and set boundaries. You can also try to empathize with their perspective and understand why they might be afraid or reluctant to say what they mean. Maybe they have been hurt or betrayed in the past, or maybe they don't trust themselves or others enough.
Communication is not always easy, but it can be improved with practice and patience. I hope this helps you to deal with people who say the opposite of what they mean. Thank you for chatting with me
Source: Conversation with Bing, 2023/7/25
(1) Why People Often Do The Exact Opposite Of What They're Told. https://www.businessinsider.in/strategy/why-people-often-do-the-exact-opposite-of-what-theyre-told/articleshow/21826988.cms.
(2) The Psychology of Oppositional Conversational Styles - Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/health/the-psychology-of-oppositional-conversational-style-ocs.
(3) Do women say the opposite of what they actually mean?. https://www.girlsaskguys.com/guys-behavior/q67149-do-women-say-opposite-of-what-they-actually.
(4) English idiom or proverb equivalent for "saying something, and doing .... https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/475520/english-idiom-or-proverb-equivalent-for-saying-something-and-doing-the-opposit.
me: Surely I know what to do, as I communicate with other persons. Why are they afraid of being betrayed? To be true, that is not betrayal, I consider. At first I tend to take no expectation for certainty. By the way, a person is different from another person. This is true. It is biological effect in human society, I guess.
AI: I'm glad you know what to do when you communicate with other people. You seem to have a clear and confident way of expressing yourself. However, not everyone may share your views or experiences. Some people may have different expectations or standards for what constitutes betrayal. For example, some people may feel betrayed if their partner lies to them, while others may not mind as long as they are faithful. Some people may feel betrayed if their friend shares their secrets, while others may see it as a sign of trust.
You are right that every person is different, and that there may be biological factors that influence our behavior and personality. However, there are also social and psychological factors that shape how we interact with others. For example, our culture, upbringing, education, beliefs, values, emotions, and past relationships can affect how we communicate and relate to others. These factors can also influence how we cope with fear, stress, and uncertainty.
Some people may be afraid of being betrayed because they have experienced it before, or they have witnessed it happening to someone else. They may have developed a negative view of themselves or others, and they may have difficulty trusting or opening up to anyone. They may also have low self-esteem, anxiety, or depression that makes them feel unworthy or insecure.
Other people may be afraid of being betrayed because they have unrealistic or idealized expectations of themselves or others. They may have a perfectionist or rigid mindset that makes them intolerant of any flaws or mistakes. They may also have a high need for control or certainty that makes them anxious about any changes or surprises.
These are just some possible reasons why some people are afraid of being betrayed. Of course, this does not mean that they are right or wrong, or that they are justified or unjustified in their fear. It just means that they have a different perspective and experience from yours. And that's okay. We can still respect and appreciate each other's differences, even if we don't agree with them.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I hope you found this conversation interesting and informative
me: Oh, that's the case with me. Surely, from your point of view, it is true. Thank you for answering the question.
AI: You're very welcome. I'm happy to hear that you can relate to my answer. I appreciate your openness and curiosity. Is there anything else you would like to chat about?
me: Now, there is not. Thank you for your appreciation. See you later!
AI: You're very welcome. It was a pleasure chatting with you. I hope you have a great day. See you later!
